I’ve been using the Prepare Enrich Premarital Counseling in my practice with premarital couples for almost 10 years now. I have found it to be a very helpful framework for my couples. It is designed to cover all the major aspects of a couples life together that are important to discuss when preparing for marriage, and I believe it does a good job of this.
Prepare Enrich is very reputable, and widely used. Certified Prepare Enrich facilitators (which are usually licensed counselors or pastors) walk you through the program typically in 6-8 sessions, beginning with an in-depth online assessment, and then using the results and exercises from the program, they make sure to cover all the essentials. Based on you and your partner’s unique results, there may be additional specialized exercises and conversations to make sure you are prepared for your marriage. The full process of therapy will look different from couple to couple, but there are certain core subjects that are useful to cover no matter what.
Right in the beginning (usually after the first session), you will be emailed a link to go online and take the couples relationship assessment. It is important that you and your partner take the assessment separately and as honestly as possible, and do not discuss the test with each other. It usually takes 30 minutes to an hour to complete. Then, in your next scheduled session, the Prepare Enrich facilitator will go over some of the results of your unique assessment, and will begin to taylor a specific plan for you and your partner based on your own individual results. The remaining sessions will go through each of the major topics listed above, and your specific assessment results, using structured exercises to help you make improvements and grow in your understanding of your partner and relationship. Sometimes there are homework assignments to do between the sessions, to really make sure you are implementing what you learned into your every day life.
One of my favorite things about Prepare Enrich? It’s VERY thorough, and the results and sessions are unique to you. The assessment reports contain all kinds of colored graphs and charts describing you and your partner on many different relationship domains. It includes assessments of your personalities and how they differ or are similar to your partner. It looks at certain key aspects of the family you grew up in (How open was your family? How flexible were they?) and compares them to your partners family, and your current relationship with your partner (How open or flexible do you and your partner view your relationship?). This takes the premarital process from being a cookie cutter, one size fits all experience, to a truly tailored and specialized experience unique to your relationship.
I will say that though I rely heavily on Prepare Enrich for my work with premarital couples, I do not strictly use this program with every couple. It is a very structured curriculum, and I’ve found in my own work with couples that sometimes you need to veer from the structure to have some open discussions about current issue in the relationship. I also have been highly trained in the Gottman method of couples counseling (another post for another day), and use many of the tools from that in my work with premarital couples as well. So I’m not a purist.
But overall, I find it to be a great framework for the premarital process. If after reading this, you are fully sold and want to get started today, give me a call or email me, and we can get your first premarital session scheduled. You can also go directly to
Or if you have more questions about the process and want to learn more, call or email me to set up a free 20 minute consultation, where I can answer more of your specific questions.